COLORADO SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL LEARNING INSTITUTE
  • ABOUT
    • OUR TEAM
    • RESEARCH
  • RESOURCES
  • WHOLE SCHOOL, WHOLE CHILD PROGRAM
  • TEACHER PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT
  • SCHOOL COUNSELORS
  • FOR SCHOOLS
    • REMOTE LEARNING FOR PARENTS
    • TEACHING DURING COVID19
    • TRAUMA-INFORMED EDUCATION
  • GROUPS FOR TEENS
Screens aren't all bad, but don't be fooled, real life almost always provides superior neurological growth. Here are some tips we give to parents, by age of your child:

Tips from our Executive Director and psychologist, Dr. Jennifer Johnston-Jones

For all ages:
Screentime =time your child spends in front of any screen like a phone, videogame, computer or tv.

Watch TV together.

Please resist putting a television in your child's room, even as a teenager. It not only opens the door for commercial brainwashing, stereotyping, and limitations of identity, but also distances you from your child. Watch television shows as a family.  If your child wants to watch something on their computer of phone, watch it with them. You can use the show as a shared interest and it helps you understand what they're getting influenced by. 

No Screentime at least an hour before bed.
That goes for you, too, mom and dad. The light from your smart phone disturbs your body's natural sleep cycle.

No phones at the dinner table, please!
This is mostly for us, the parents. 

Under Age 5:
Only if you are seriously in need of a distraction for your child (examples include you having a meltdown, your child needing a distraction before or after immunizations, or something like having a CAT scan and needing to be perfectly still). Otherwise, no screens, please. 0-5 is the time in your child's life when the brain is at it's peak and growing the most. Awake time that is less interactive (screens) provides less neurological growth. 

School-Age (5-12):
  • If you must get your elementary school age child a phone, please get them a flip phone so they can't browse the web. Kids often hack parental controls on smart phones and end up seeing things they can't unsee.
  • Don't let your child browse YouTube alone. If they do browse it, watch them closely. Even innocent videos can have something completely inappropriate in them. I met with a parent recently who shared that her 3rd grader was watching Peppa The Pig shows on YouTube and in the middle of the show the YouTube video had a decapitated person. The child is still not sleeping without nightmares.
  • Video games? Is it a first person game (as in, can your child feel as though he's seeing through the eyes of the character)? Then absolutely not. Neurologically it is very difficult for kids to differentiate reality from gaming, especially in first person games. Even seemingly benign games like Fortnite are harmful. If you've already let them play these games, don't worry, just don't do it again. You can blame it on me! Explain, "I was just learning about your brain and how it's growing from a psychologist and I learned something I didn't know before..." Does it involve a gun? Also, no.
  • Make school days tech-free days.
  • Let your child 'be bored.' Without tv, video games, or phones creativity can emerge!
  • When in the car, make that a time for family conversation. Don't make phone calls or have other phone conversations with your child in the car. 
  • Talk with your child about appropriate online conduct. They may be exposed to things you don't want them to be exposed to unless you tell them how to be safe online.
  • Protect your child from violence and adult references on movies, tv, websites and video games they watch and play.
  • What about social media? Just say no...social media is designed to turn our kids into low-self esteem consumers. You can explain this in the same conversation that you talk about advertising. Our kids need emotional armor to protect them from the infiltration of media. I don't care if all of their friends have accounts...your child doesn't need one. 

Middle School (13-14/15):
  • Social Media? Just say no...social media is designed to turn our kids into low-self esteem consumers. You can explain this in the same conversation as you talk about advertising. Our kids need emotional armor to protect them from the infiltration of media. I don't care if all of their friends have accounts...your child doesn't need one. Many parents are contacting other parents and getting a group of parents to ban together on this one...a great idea.
  • Limit the amount of screentime per day to less than 2 hours on school days.
  • Monitor everything they see (yes, still). As Game of Thrones proves, violence and porn-like sex can creep up on you at any time).
  • Don't let them use their phone as an alarm clock--they will end up being on their phone far into the night instead of sleeping...how do we know? We do this too. Except for teens this is more dangerous because they are more susceptible to influence and their brains are growing exponentially at this age. 
  • Don't text your child during the day at school, it's distracting.

High School: (14 and up):
  • At this age, everyone in the family should have the same screentime rules. As a parent of a high schooler, you employ the same rules around computers, phones tv and videogames that you give for yourself.  Essential habits such as not having the phone in the bedroom, not falling asleep right before looking at a phone or computer, and limiting the amount of screentime per day (and keeping track of it) will help your teen learn essential life skills around regulating addictive temptations.
  • Limit the amount of screentime per day at less than 2 hours.
  • Please, please, please don't think you don't have to screen their media just because they're almost as tall or taller than you...they're young brains in a large body! They aren't meant to have full access to the incredibly violent and provocative media that is available via Netflix, Amazon Prime and the others. If they have a tv in their room, remove it or remove the tv subscriptions. Or, simply, change the password and don't share with them. If you have Cable tv, turn off your subscription. It's full of junk food for the mind...and again, its goal is to create consumers who spend more than they have. Also, the easy access that teens have to anything advertisers want to throw at them is unacceptable. 
  • Don't let them use their phone as an alarm clock--they will end up being on their phone far into the night instead of sleeping...how do we know? We do this too. Except for teens this is more dangerous because they are more susceptible to influence and their brains are growing exponentially at this age. 
We Prevent Childhood Trauma.

www.ColoradoSEL.com  • 310-894-6597